Mind Your Manners in Spanish

Quick Answer

¡Hola!Learn how to mind your manners in this article and the lessons above! Specifically, learn how to do the following in Spanish:

• talk about manners

• use vocabulary about polite behavior

• give informal commands

Vocabulary

Let's start off with the vocab words in these lessons!

Adjectives

SpanishEnglish
ajenoother people’s
establecidoestablished
examples
Respeta las opiniones ajenas.
Respect other people's opinions.
Sigue las reglas establecidas.
Follow the established rules.

Adverbs

SpanishEnglish
firmementefirmly
pacientementepatiently
examples
Da la mano firmemente.
Shake hands firmly.
Espera tu turno pacientemente.
Wait your turn patiently.

Nouns

SpanishEnglish
la atenciónattention
los mayoreselderly
los modalesmanners
el permisopermission
la propinatip
examples
Escucha con atención y paciencia.
Listen with attention and patience.
Ofrece tu asiento a los mayores.
Offer your seat to the elderly.
¿Qué puedo hacer para tener buenos modales?
What can I do to have good manners?

Prepositional Phrase

SpanishEnglish
por igualequally
examples
Respeta a todos por igual.
Respect everyone equally.

Verbs and Verb Phrases: Command Forms

In this skill, you learn the command forms for the following verbs and verb phrases!

InfinitiveEnglish Command FormNegative Command Form
agarrarto takeagarrano agarres
agradecerto be grateful foragradeceno agradezcas
avisarto let someone knowavisano avises
burlarseto make funbúrlateno te burles
criticarto criticizecriticano critiques
elevarto raiseelevano eleves
ignorarto ignoreignorano ignores
invadirto invadeinvadeno invadas
dar la manoto shake handsda la manono des la mano
pedir disculpasto apologizepide disculpasno pidas disculpas

To Take

In Spain, you'll find that people use cogerto say to take, and agarrar to say to grasp or to grab. However, throughout Latin America, it's more common to use agarrar as the translation for to take. Be careful, in certain Spanish-speaking countries, coger can be a bit of a taboo word.

Affirmative Commands: The Informal Imperative

commands are the singular form of informal commands. You can use affirmative commands to tell a friend, family member the same age as you or younger, classmate, child, or pet to do something. To tell somebody not to do something, you would use a negative tú command.

How to Form Regular Affirmative Commands

For regular verbs, you will simply use the third-person singular form of the present indicative to form an affirmative command:

  • For verbs that end in -ar, add the third-person singular ending -a to the stem
  • For verbs that end in -er and -ir, add the third-person singular ending -e to the stem

Forming Commands with Verbs with Stem or Spelling Changes

For verbs with stem changes or spelling changes in the present tense, the stem or spelling change also applies to the informal command form.

Irregular Affirmative Commands

All verbs with irregular third-person singular forms in the present tense maintain that same irregularity in the affirmative informal command, except for the following eight verbs, which have special irregular affirmative command forms.

VerbAffirmative Command Form
ser
irve
tenerten
venirven
hacerhaz
decirdi
ponerpon
salirsal

To remember the super-duper irregular command forms in the table above, memorize this mnemonic device:

  • se ve ten ven haz di pon sal

Pronoun Placement in Affirmative Commands

Pronouns are attached to the end of affirmative commands. A written accent (tilde) is often added to maintain the verb's original stress, especially if more than one pronoun is used.

Negative Informal Imperative Forms

The negative informal imperative, yet another term used to describe negative commands, is formed differently than the affirmative informal imperative. It is actually formed much like the negative formal imperative in that it uses the present subjunctive form of the verb.

If you already know the formal command forms, you can simply add an s to the end of the formal command to form a negative informal command.

Irregular Negative Informal Commands

If a verb is irregular in the present subjunctive, its negative informal command form maintains the same irregularity.

Pronoun Placement in Negative Commands

In negative informal commands, the pronoun goes between the negative word (like no or nunca) and the verb.

Quiz Yourself!

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Spanish Conversation

Fantastic! Let's put the grammar and vocab from above to the test in the following example of a conversation in Spanish.

Martín:
¿Qué puedo hacer para tener buenos modales? El Sr. Gómez se enfadó conmigo en clase hoy.
What can I do to have good manners? Mr. Gomez got mad at me today in class.
Lola:
En primer lugar, escucha con atención y paciencia. No interrumpas cuando—
First, listen with attention and patience. Don't interrupt when—
Martín:
¡Siempre escucho y nunca interrumpo!
I always listen, and I never interrupt!
Lola:
¡Me acabas de interrumpir, Martín! En segundo lugar, no critiques a otros públicamente.
Your just interrupted me, Martin! Second, don't criticize others publicly.
Martín:
El Sr. Gómez es muy antipático.
Mr. Gomez is really mean.
Lola:
¿Qué te he dicho? No critiques a otros. Martín, por favor. Esto va a acabar mal.
What did I tell you? Don’t criticize others. Martin, please. This is going to end badly.

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