Embarrassing attempt at a Spanish phrase

Question

A little bit ago I emailed a new acquaintance who speaks Spanish very well. I used a familiar verb form and then meant to say, in Spanish, "if you will allow me to be so familiar." I wrote "(si permitirás que esté tan familiar)." Now I'm thinking I made a mess. Can someone comment on my attempt and perhaps correct it for me?

Thanks for the question Ann, it has been a long time between waterholes that someone has wanted to be familiar with me . How sad, too bad , hard luck ! - ray76, Nov 19, 2015

I would just change the last few words to "que sea tan informal" "Familiar" has to do with 'family' Los familiares are members of the family. Then again there may be some regional variation that I am unaware of. - Daniela2041, Nov 19, 2015

You're a funny one, you are, Ray. Lol. I'm sure there are plenty of pretty young things that would be happy to tutoyer a tu.. - AnnRon, Nov 19, 2015

Gracias, Daniela. - AnnRon, Nov 19, 2015

@ Dani: I agree, so I checked RAE and it does allow "familiar" to be used as "close / informal" - 005faa61, Nov 19, 2015

Nice question. - annierats, Nov 20, 2015

Answer 1

What is the context? If you want to speak with someone using "tú" rather than "Ud." you could say: ... si permites que nos tuteemos / hablemos de tú.

If you simply want to have a closer relationship: .... si me permites ser tan familiar / si permites que sea tan familiar. With this meaning "persona familiar" can also be "persona de confianza"

It was after I used a "tu" conjugation. I wasn't suggesting a closer relationship, just hoping I wasn't giving offense by using "tu" too quickly. - AnnRon, Nov 19, 2015

Answer 2

My suggestion: Si se me permite ser tan directo¿ podemos tutear?

I like it. - AnnRon, Nov 20, 2015

it would be to be straight.. - Pablo064, Nov 21, 2015

I agree, Pablo, it's not the same, but I think it works too??? - annierats, Nov 21, 2015