What would You do guys receiving such message?

Question

Lo se que no soy una chica perfecta, que a veces exagero un poco, que soy muy impaciente y impulsiva, y que quizas te presione para que hablar conmigo cuando estabas ocupado y entonces quizas soy yo que no te merezco? Lo siento por todo eso! lo he cambiado poco a poco.. Lo se que todo eso se parece extrano un poco, que me preocupo mucho aunque somos solo amigos de Internet y no se casi nada sobre Ti pero te lo dije ya que algo me atrae a ti, Paolito! Y todavia no se por que.. Estoy segura que no quiero perderlo.. es increible sentimineto y eso me gusta muchisimo! Me caes bien aunque eres muy malo a veces y puedo perdonarte lo que ha pasado.. Ahora puedo decirlo que eres muy guapo, simpatico y inteligente tambien y muuuchooo maaas! Eres de gran ayuda para mi, no solo con mi espanol, mi buon profesor! No puedes imaginarte cuanto! Ha sido mucho placer conocerte y ahora no se que hacer, que decir mas, como convencerte de que Kataryna es ok etc creo que no piensas en mi mal? Yo te quiero aqui cerca de mi, yo quiero volverte ahora mismo, te necesito mucho, pienso en Ti mucho y te extrano muchisimo tambien! (no te preocupes, no soy enamorada de Ti! jajajaj) Pero todo es tu „culpa” que me comporto asi.. que me vuelvas loca, pero eso me gusta! No puedo parar de pensar en... hmm en todo lo que me dijiste! no solo en.. Odio perder el tiempo para sonar con.. A veces me pregunto por que lo hago? Por que hago lo mejor que puedo? Y no lo se.. no se que vale la pena.. pero espero que lo aprecies el chico perezoso Y si no me quieres, piensas que es mejor asi, que me lo merezco y no vuelvas, estoy segurisima que voy a vivir en isla desierta para siempre.. no quiero ser dolida mas por chicos.. Y con seguridad no te voy a olvidar tan facilmente.. porque eres especial para mi! Sabes bien donde es „tu” Kataryna!

P.S. No puedo escribir mas.. es el ultimo mensaje.. y quizas la ultima oportunidad..

Answer 1

You say that you haven't even met this guy yet, being only internet friends, and yet you lay bare your whole soul on how you feel. Coupled with the fact that you also say you don't love him which to me is a complete paradox.

If a young man receives a message like this from someone he hasn't yet met, there are two things which might enter his mind,

1) "Christ this is heavy. There is no way that I want such a frenzied friendship, run".

2) The second is that "This girl is totally smitten, Why not have my fun and then run".

If I were you I would tone down this message drastically. I would take more time to get to know him personally before declaring my undying love.

but it's not like that.. there is a huge misunderstanding, I see.. I would have to explain it better and tell more how our friendship was like before this message.. but what could I do now? - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Good message Eddy!! - 001a2987, Jun 27, 2011

I am sorry Kataryna, that's how it appears to me. You asked for opinions from guys and mine appears above. - Eddy, Jun 27, 2011

That's ok! Don't worry about that! I just would like him to come back but don't know how.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Answer 2

Saying those deep words with an I'm not in love with you was VERY confusing, and one would be upset with the jajaja.... But do not worry, if he is angry with you he would have answered saying: Leave me alone! Just be patience and while you wait for an answer you can check and practise with some corrections. Good luck girl.

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Se que no soy una chica perfecta, que a veces exagero un poco, que soy muy impaciente e impulsiva, y que quizás te presioné para que hablaras conmigo cuando estabas ocupado, y entonces ¿Quizás soy yo quien no te merece? Siento mucho que pase todo esto! Estoy (??) cambiado poco a poco.. Se que todo esto parece un poco extraño, que me preocupo mucho aunque somos solo amigos de Internet y no se casi nada sobre ti pero ya te dije que hay algo en ti que me atrae, Paolito! Y todavía no se por qué.. Estoy segura que no quiero perder este increíble sentimiento que me gusta muchisimo! Me caes bien aunque eres muy malo a veces pero te perdono por todo lo que ha pasado.. Ahora puedo decir que eres muy guapo, simpático e inteligente también, y muuuchooo maaas! Eres de gran ayuda para mi, no solo con mi español, mi buen profesor! No puedes imaginarte cuanto! Ha sido un gran placer conocerte y ahora no se que hacer, que más decir, como convencerte de que Kataryna es ok (buena onda, una chica buena??) etc. --Creo que no piensas en mi mal?-- (Creo que no te das cuenta de lo que estoy pasando??) Yo te quiero aquí, cerca de mi, quiero que vuelvas ahora mismo, te necesito mucho, pienso mucho en Ti, también te extraño muchísimo (No te preocupes, no estoy enamorada de Ti! jajajaj) Pero es tu „culpa” que me comporte así.. Es que me vuelves loca, y eso me gusta! No puedo parar de pensar en... hmm en todo lo que me dijiste! no solo en.. --Odio perder el tiempo para sonar como--.. A veces me pregunto por qué lo hago? ¿Por qué hago lo mejor que puedo? Y no lo se.. no se si vale la pena.. pero espero que lo aprecies, chico perezoso. Y si no me quieres, piensas que es mejor así, que no me lo merezco y no vuelvas más, estoy segurísima que voy a vivir en una isla desierta para siempre.. no quiero ser lastimada por los chicos, no más.. Y con seguridad no te voy a olvidar tan fácilmente.. porque eres especial para mi! Sabes bien donde está „tu” Kataryna!

P.S. No puedo escribir más.. es el último mensaje.. y quizas la última oportunidad..

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P.S.... Correct my English, please.... and reading your letter has opened an old wound,,, ohhhh, ...This old heart of mine been broke a thousand times...

Gracias! so it was wrong to have sent such message? I'm not sure he is confused or upset (I wanted to assure him that we are only friends) and he told me more and everything was ok.. so I see that guys can do anything and say all they want? eh - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

and I'm so impatient.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Correction: ...just be patient and... - webdunce, Jun 27, 2011

Of course this is perfect, just want to point out the missing accents on sé and mí.:) - Deanski, Jun 27, 2011

Answer 3

Ufff! If I feel the same way, I would be there right away.

Answer 4

Katarina, this letter is too personal and brings the burden of your feelings. For sure it doesn't say "let's just be friends", and you still deny that you are in love with him.

If you really doesn't don't love him (in which I doubt) then you should really write a letter that is not so emotionally loaded, as suggested by Eddy.

One more thing that "P.S." doesn't sound friendly. If you want to be friends don't press him with things like "el ultimo mensaje" & "la ultima oportunidad". A friend should be understanding and stand there for you even when it takes time.

'You really *don't*' - Deanski, Jun 27, 2011

I don't! I don't know how can I prove it.. I do my best to fix it, even it isn't my fault at all, but I see everything I did is wrong? - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

I would suggest to try to continue your internet relation, and maybe ask again for real life meeting later on! - UnaPalabra, Jun 27, 2011

But how can I continue it now? If I can't reach to him.. this is a problem.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Just try to send him e-mails one per week and if he still doesn't respond, you will have to GO ON! Sometimes it's the only way :( - UnaPalabra, Jun 28, 2011

Answer 5

Lo se que no soy una chica perfecta, que a veces exagero un poco, que soy muy impaciente y impulsiva, y que quizas te presione para que hablar conmigo cuando estabas ocupado y entonces quizas soy yo que no te merezco?

Your first sentence here is pretty much what you say throughout the entire essay, so in effect it becomes redundant to the point of rambling. A few paragraphs here and there would also make it much easier to read. However, I doubt this is the reason for a lack of response. Some help in spelling and punctuation is also needed, but it´s still quite understandable and certainly not a reason for not responding either.

You sound like a very nice girl, so the only reason I can guess that Paolito hasn´t answered yet is that he is feeling a bit overwhelmed by the rambling.

Thanks for Your opinion! sometimes too nice jajaja I'm sure he understand it well.. but I don't hope he will respond soon.. I don't know what anything more, could I do? - 009a0c9b, Jun 26, 2011

Answer 6

Really nice note. As a guy I would be really touched by your honesty. He's lucky to have you. The problem is that we take each other for granted in relationships. Well good luck and hope it works out.

Wow! Thanks for saying it! I would like him to think the same as You! But now he doesn't have me.. I feel that it's me who lost him.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Well just give it some time. If its meant to be then it will. Hang in there. I'm sure most of us have been through similar situations. You will be fine. - croberts, Jun 27, 2011

I'm still waiting.. it will be the fifth day after having sent it.. if he doesn't respond, I will visit him soon in Italy! es un chico italiano.. eh - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Answer 7

From what I understand about men I know that a lot of men would be scared whitless if they would receive a message like this.

Of course I don't know what has happened before you sent this message but it is very emotional to send to a possibly superficial internet acquaintance. Such relationships often feel like they are deepening which might not be the case (yet). Remember that when you have never met a person you miss half of the communication since you can't see any facial expressions or body language when you read a written message. Therefore it is very easy to "read" emotions into text that were never meant to be there.

This person may have written messages and immediately hit the "send" button without realising the possible consequences, i.e. how you might perceive his messages. Or he might not have been a very sincere person and might have wanted to see how you would respond for his personal entertainment without bothering how you felt about it.

Personally I would never have sent this message and you might never get a reply.

I hope all turns out well and wish you all the best.

Saludos, Chica

I'm such a girl.. of course it doesn't mean that I could send such message to everyone.. it is a longer story. Thanks for Your opinion! I'm not sure he would be scared etc coz he told me even more and for me it was ok.. I can only wait now. - 009a0c9b, Jun 28, 2011

Good luck!! - chicasabrosa, Jun 29, 2011

Answer 8

Hi

Maybe you gave him too much to think about. That is why there is no reply yet.

Sure! He needs more time. Be patient but don't expect too much. Try to relax and keep yourself busy - 00a4c226, Jun 26, 2011

But how long can I wait? I try to fix it somehow, I do my best.. even though it isn't my fault that now we lost contact.. or not only mine.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 26, 2011

Sometimes it's hard to accept that "everything has a cycle". - 00a4c226, Jun 26, 2011

Yes.. but I want him to come back.. and don't know what could I do more.. I can't understand guys.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 26, 2011

:) Guys says the same about girls! - 00a4c226, Jun 26, 2011

Answer 9

I wish you had also written this in English, I'm intrigued lol

only in Spanish.. - 009a0c9b, Jun 26, 2011

not a problem! Hey, I'm amazed, I think I actually understood some of that. Perhaps all the hours I'm spending on here are starting to pay off! - billygoat, Jun 26, 2011

Excelent! - 00a4c226, Jun 26, 2011

of course I'm beginner too ;) and there are some or more than some mistakes! - 009a0c9b, Jun 26, 2011

dont worry about that. Although I am a native English speaker, my English grammar is really poor. I would not advice people to try and learn English from me :'( - billygoat, Jun 26, 2011

but what do You think about this message? maybe I should only wait and do nothing.. :( - 009a0c9b, Jun 27, 2011

Answer 10

I'd correct the spelling.

Answer 11

Kataryna, are you the one sending this message?

Answer 12

Congratulations is very difficult to express feelings in a language that isn´t yours.

I´m from Spain, from barcelona and the meaning of the letter for me is this: You say "no te preocupes, no estoy enamorada de Ti! jajajaj" but the letter say "I need you, I'm in love"

Hmm Barcelona.. I just started learning spanish because of my friend from Barcelona.. Thanks! but I'm not in love, for sure! estoy segurisima! - 009a0c9b, Jul 1, 2011

I would have omitted some things which can be misread. I hope that all goes well! :D - Driker, Jul 1, 2011

it's still too early to say it.. it's only one short message.. - 009a0c9b, Jul 1, 2011

Answer 13

just dispose the message!

Answer 14

dispose the message!

Answer 15

well, I just want to tell that... he replied yesterday!

Yesss! That's a great new :) Good for you! - 00a4c226, Jul 1, 2011