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It will only take a minute of your time: Why do we do this?

11
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This short video will only take a minute of your time, but I hope it will make you write your opinion.

Why do we react like this? Why is a big black guy more frightening than a big white guy? Or would this mother have reacted the same way if he had been white?

I really wonder.....

This will only take a minute of our time.....

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updated Jun 20, 2011
edited by 00494d19
posted by 00494d19
hmmm... i'll have to see when I get home... - DJ_Huero, Jun 16, 2011
The video only took one minute. The response will take hours. :) - pesta, Jun 16, 2011
A mother would have dragged her child away from any strange man with a balloon. - Felixlynx, Jun 16, 2011
I am glad that I am not scared of black people, they deserve as much as us. - Destroyed99, Jun 17, 2011

36 Answers

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Lovely film. It goes beyond colour racism as well, this kind of stuff happens wherever there is ignorance and insecurity. It doesn't just happen to black guys but, yeah they get the thin end of it. Ignorant and fearful people are, perhaps, unwittingly responsible for a lot of the suffering in the world which, ironically frightens them. goonight grin

updated Jun 19, 2011
posted by lagartijaverde
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I don't know about skin color, but there is clearly something wrong with that guy. Anyone who free climbs a 75-foot tall light pole, just to retrieve a 10¢ balloon, is definitely not working with a full deck.

In any case, I did not really see anything intimidating or fear-inducing about the guy....Although, come to think of it, it was a bit strange that he lived alone, in an apartment full of helium-filled balloons. I mean, isn't that a little bit odd? Why does he have so many balloons in his apartment. Very suspicious indeed....

updated Jun 25, 2011
posted by Izanoni1
His apartment was full of balloons because the same situation happened so many times before. - SonrisaDelSol, Jun 16, 2011
::bracing himself for the backlash:: - Izanoni1, Jun 16, 2011
I don't think it was the value of the balloon so much as it was the fact he realized that it was important to the little girl. Compassion makes us all do "strange" things. - Nicole-B, Jun 16, 2011
But why so many balloons in the apartment. To me, that is very fishy. How do we know that he is not "baiting" the lamp post himself, in an attempt to trap unsuspecting children....I don't know....it all just seems highly suspicious to me. - Izanoni1, Jun 16, 2011
Jaja, lzanoni. We all respect your opinion -- don't think of it at backlash! Yes, I agree. It was an act of kindness to a stranger. It didn't matter how much the balloons cost. It would make the girl happy. - SonrisaDelSol, Jun 16, 2011
I believe it was all symbolic. If he were baiting the lamp post then he would need to only keep reusing the same balloon. - Nicole-B, Jun 16, 2011
I don't know, Nicole....the only symbol I saw was a room full of balloons....but where were the children!?? - Izanoni1, Jun 16, 2011
lol, i like it. Some people are sooooooo deep. You get my vote! - billygoat, Jun 16, 2011
so i guess we know where the two votes come from lol - la-araña-discoteca, Jun 16, 2011
qué simpático, te conste que fue lo primero que pensé...pero bueno, este hombre está loco o que? jejeje - 00494d19, Jun 16, 2011
Maybe it's just me but I get the feeling Izanoni is joking. - Leatha, Jun 16, 2011
"backlash" - Good we are not talking about "black lashing" anymore. - ian-hill, Jun 17, 2011
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Don't get me started either Heidi.

The video was a "put up" job and we don't all react like that.

updated Jun 17, 2011
posted by ian-hill
i react like that. i hate black men with balloons. - la-araña-discoteca, Jun 16, 2011
It's the balloons!!!! And clowns are evil for that reason, too. :) - pesta, Jun 16, 2011
I guess you knew, Ian. - GuitarWarrior, Jun 16, 2011
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I don't think racism is simply between blacks and whites. Often times i feel like immigrants (in the U.S.) can have the least tolerance for other races.

Not to mention I witness and hear a lot of racism amongst Latinos. Have you ever heard someone from Colombia talk about someone from Bolivia? And God forbid a Latino look and speak like Evo Morales and dare to call himself Latino....

And what about what goes on in Brazil?

Side note: That video did not seem like an American point of view for a number of reasons. Just a hunch, but mainly because that kind of racism (if interpreted to be racism) is not the most prevalent form of racism in America in the 21 century.

updated Jun 17, 2011
posted by la-araña-discoteca
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If I didn't know the context, that a man (regardless of color) had just climbed up a pole, a tall pole, to get a child her balloon:

I think in this day and age, yes, a mother or guardian would react to a stranger handing a balloon to a child, possibly speaking to the child, and get her away from possible danger. I believe in today's world regardless of color it's a matter of a stranger dealing with a child, that caused her to react as she did. Could she have reacted differently, sure, but in that moment, that particular lady was in protection mode.

I, too, went wow, when I saw so many balloons on the man's wall. I think anyone wanting to help, might have looked around for the child's guardian first, let them know why they want to interact with a child and then there would be less balloons on the wall. Also, by speaking with the parent directly there would have been less fear involved, too

I'm not saying this is right or wrong; but it is today's world we live in. Acceptance and knowing boundaries and how to cross boundaries is part of the society we people live in.

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by bandit51jd
I agree with you about the cause of the mother's reaction, bandit - FELIZ77, Jun 16, 2011
However, no matter what the mother's motives were, there are some bad or dangerous people of both sexes and women can also sometimes pose a risk to children and society's refusal to accept this fact can also potentially expose their children to unnecessa - FELIZ77, Jun 16, 2011
unnecssary danger/risk! - FELIZ77, Jun 16, 2011
I am a little confused Feliz. Are you saying some societies refuse to recognize that people can be a danger to kids in certain situations.? - bandit51jd, Jun 16, 2011
That is really interesting if I'm understanding correctly. If the society refuses, than it's people will follow that lead and even more danger comes to that society? - bandit51jd, Jun 16, 2011
I love your last sentence bandit. I totally agree with it. In this day and age, anything is possible. - HotChickCD, Jun 16, 2011
Gracias, HotChick! - bandit51jd, Jun 16, 2011
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I'm gonna have to go ahead and agree with Billygoat and Izanoni here. I didn't see color necessarily involved in that either.

This is a bit more explicit:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hrOSL85ZMck

updated Jun 25, 2011
edited by la-araña-discoteca
posted by la-araña-discoteca
I could see the child being frightened by a hulking man (of any color), but the mother's reaction had to be color bias or gender bias (she didn't want her daughter with a male stranger of any color) - 0074b507, Jun 16, 2011
that may be the case. and i feel like gender bias is a more apropo interpretation, for i did not see color in that at all. - la-araña-discoteca, Jun 16, 2011
given all the media on child sexual predators, it could have been a play on how not everyone is a child molestor... - la-araña-discoteca, Jun 16, 2011
even if they have an apartment littered with balloons.... :) - la-araña-discoteca, Jun 16, 2011
Hehe...touché - Izanoni1, Jun 16, 2011
3
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Don't get me started with this.

The video was just plain sad; I was almost overwhelmed with tears. And what's worse is that... this happens simply because you are seen as being "different".

The saddest part was when I saw all of the balloons at the end. How many times has this happened? How long will this keep happening? When can we put this behind us?

There is a lot more I would like to say, but I'm just glad that there are a lot of people in this kind, loving world who really don't think that way.

updated Jun 16, 2011
edited by GuitarWarrior
posted by GuitarWarrior
I agree Guitar:) - FELIZ77, Jun 16, 2011
All those balloons to me indicated something different....but maybe I'm racist? - Fredbong, Jun 16, 2011
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Times have changed, but for a long while the races were segregated in the U.S. You weren't familiar with people of different races, religions, cultures, customs, etc. Modern communications has eradicated much of that fear, suspicion, as now through TV, music,etc. we invite peoples of all types into our living room every night.

All kidding aside (hopefully, at least some recognized it for what it was), I just wanted to briefly comment on this statement. My own opinion is that modern media has been more of a mixed blessing in this regard in the fact that, while it certainly has helped in some ways, many of the images that we are bombarded with are typically either (1) completely watered down, white-washed and neutered versions of reality or (2) severely stereotyped (often in a negative, belittling or all too predictable way). From this perspective, it is often a bit disconcerting to me, to look around and see so many examples of life imitating "art" rather than art imitating life.

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by Izanoni1
Jeje, I didn't cath your kidding tone. Sorry ;) - bomberapolaca, Jun 16, 2011
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Have I missed the point here? Is it anything at all to do with the guy's skin colour? confused

A mother sees her young daughter crying loudly and a big man is standing over her trying to give her a balloon.

I dont see colour in this.

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by billygoat
The girl was pointing up at the lamp thing, indicating she let go of her balloon and was sad. The big man willingly climbed up the pole and got it down for her, only to have the mother drag the girl away. - SonrisaDelSol, Jun 16, 2011
Sonrisa I saw it that way too He just happened to be there at that time - FELIZ77, Jun 16, 2011
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xenophobia...we all fear what is strange or unknown to us.

Fortunately, in my life, when I was a child, I was the only "white" girl in neighborhood, besides my sister. I am thankful for this background because from an early age, I never really thought much about the color of anyone's skin. All of my friends were black and varying shades of brown.

When I was a bit older, it shocked me that there were people in this world who felt differently. I am past the shock, but it really angers me when a person is judged on the basis of his skin color. Thankfully, my kids have also chosen friends based on personality rather than race. We regularly have people of all colors visiting us and sleeping over our house. People who interact with only those of their own ethnicity live a very small life.

This video made me cry. It is amazing how much was said without one word being spoken. Thanks for the reminder Heidi! smile

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by Nicole-B
really? how intersting...we don't really have any real contact here in Madrid with black people....but I can see the point here, I would not be surprised to see a mother react this way - 00494d19, Jun 16, 2011
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Wow. That made me tear up. blank stare

I find it disgusting when people are racist. I, too, can't understand why some people just can't look past skin color.

We are all people...it doesn't matter what race/religion we are. It's really time that some people [like the woman in that video] change their attitudes. It's 2011, people!

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updated Jun 17, 2011
edited by SonrisaDelSol
posted by SonrisaDelSol
2
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I saw a protective but narrow-minded mother taking an instinctive action to "protect" her child.

I hope I'm not offending anyone, but in this video I saw a mother from Japan, Korea, or other society with a large percentage of xenophobic people. Some members of my wife's family (and mine) are very much like this, so I'm quite familiar with this perspective.

Far from being "bad" people, these people are victims of their society, and of their culture. It took about 20 years for my mother (Hungarian) to wholly accept my wife (she's Chinese). My mother hasn't learned a broader lesson, though. The xenophobic instincts are very deeply-seated. If I couldn't change my mother's phobia, what chance of success does public education and media exposure have?

updated Jun 16, 2011
edited by pesta
posted by pesta
2
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It just goes to show how children, unspoiled by prejudice, can see equality in everything. She too will eventually be tainted by society and will probably grow up to be like her Dad.

The yellow balloon :(

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by dewclaw
2
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many of the images that we are bombarded with are typically either (1) completely watered down, white-washed and neutered versions of reality or (2) severely stereotyped (often in a negative, belittling or all too predictable way). From this perspective, it is often a bit disconcerting to me, to look around and see so many examples of life imitating "art" rather than art imitating life.

What else can I say? This time I completely agree with Izanoni, who expressed my thoughts better than I did wink LOL

updated Jun 16, 2011
posted by bomberapolaca
2
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Wow! The man seemed unintimadating to me. Of course this was scripted to make a point. In reality, if the woman had lost track of her daughter long enough for the whole thing to take place she would have been freaked out when she found her, but not necessarily scared of the guy.

updated Jun 16, 2011
edited by Leatha
posted by Leatha