how do you say "you know your loved when they say it first"

Question

if anyone can help, it would be greatly appriciated

Answer 1

Don't underestimate the power of alcohol in creating transient states of wanting somebody..!

I would agree with the ser over estar issue. Thanks for the clarification over the correct participle.

Answer 2

It is indeed a gender issue, as the participle "querida" refers back to the person, in this case a woman. Passive constructions must agree in number and gender.

I mostly agree with the translation "sabes que estás querida/amada cuando lo dicen primeramente," but I would have used the verb ser, as in "sabes que eres querida/amada." A quick google just now shows that both forms are used, but that ser is over 10 times more common than estar, and most of the hits for the latter are irrelevant here, since they are forms such as "Cómo estás, querido."

The difference, I think, is one of permanence. "Eres querida" means that you are in a permanent state of being loved, by family, etc., whereas "estás querida" would mean more of a transient state. I find it difficult to imagine many cases where estar would be more appropriate, so I think ser is the verb of choice here.

Answer 3

Can i ask, why querida and not querido?

Presumably it's not a male / female issue, as the statement is passive.

Thanks.

Answer 4

"you know your loved when they say it first"
should be you're or you are

We need to be correct for those learning English.

Answer 5

I would say querida.

Answer 6

thank you so much, i am totally lost when it comes to my spanish

Answer 7

Hmmm, just an attempt:
sabes que estas querida/amada cuando lo dicen primeramente