What is up with the rudeness?
What is up with the rudeness on here? I am on here to learn. Not to have a rude answer put up on something that I am wanting to learn about. I am talking about the señora or señorita discussion. I have a few spanish friends here where I live and we had this discussion on what a señorita is, and I was told it was a young virgin, and once you are married you are a señora. And that is why I asked if I was right or not. But thanks to the answers on here I now know. Just would have liked not having it been so rude.
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Your thread generated a lot of discussion. In that sense it was a great post. I Looked at the posts and well, to be honest could not detect anything that was really, "rude". However, remember that on this site there are people from all over the world, using language which may or not be their native tongue. I have on occasion looked twice at a reply, realizing that sometimes the nuances of language may cause a reply to be more caustic then it was meant to be.
cyndee267, this is a great site with many helpful people. Stay with it. We can use your contributions too!
Well, my friend, on this site we all-ready had this discussion. I wrote in jest that a señorita was a virgen and I was called stupid. So, I know how you feel.Do'nt give up this forum, you will learn a lot. A good thing about it is that you get immediate answer -most of the time.
I just read through the thread and to be honest I didn't see anything that stood out from anybody. There were some answers that were very much to the point but I knowing most all of the people that responded, I didn't find their comments rude or offensive. More importantly, I hope everybody learned something from this thread. An honest question and many honest answers. 
Sometimes things don't come across well when typing so if there is somebody that you felt was exceptionally rude then definitely PM them. People on here are very willingly to talk things out or discuss it at least. Hope this helps. 
What is up with the rudeness on here? I am on here to learn. Not to have a rude answer put up on something that I am wanting to learn about. I am talking about the señora or señorita discussion. I have a few spanish friends here where I live and we had this discussion on what a señorita is, and I was told it was a young virgin, and once you are married you are a señora. And that is why I asked if I was right or not. But thanks to the answers on here I now know. Just would have liked not having it been so rude.
I would think that this would have been better as a PM to the person you feel was being rude to you rather than a general discussion about rudeness, which I think most everyone would agree we don't want.
I'm sorry you were offended. Please remember that the tone of someone's comments don't always pass well through the written word.
There are a couple of rude people on this site for sure. You just have to understand that they aren't really being rude to you, but that they are just rude people in general. Going through life like that must suck for them but they are probably really unhappy people. When you encounter people like that you just have to smile and keep being yourself.
OK, So I am the one that is rude, and for that I apologize. This is the best learning you can get here on spanishdict. I would not give it up. I carry Paralee with me all day every day on ipod. The downloads are great. Once again I apologize.
Cyndee267, since my post was the only one to receive a yellow flag, I must be the guilty party. Please know that it has never been my intention to be rude to or disrespectful of anyone here. So I'll try to explain better the idea behind my post:
(In the strictest use of the word, Señorita means virgin). This is simply the history of the word's usage, and implies nothing as far as contemporary usage is concerned.
(But in real-life usage, you should still refer to yourself as such). Señorita is used for women teachers of most any age and at your young age of 31, you will be called Señorita with respect in and out of the classroom, and you can refer to yourself the same way.
(I know women in Mexican culture who have been divorced, no children, considerably older than you, and are still called Señorita). This is just plain fact.
(Obviously having children would change that). When any of the above-mentioned women walk into a store, for example, they are greeted with, "Buenas tardes, Señorita. ¿En qué la puedo servir?" If the woman walking into the store is accompanied by one child or more, the greeting will be, "Buenas tardes, Señora. ¿En qué la puedo servir?" And this regardless of her age.
I hope I have cleared up any misunderstanding of my unclear post.
Ah, the joys of the Internet. The spanishdict.com forums are better than most, since most of us are here to learn, and just about every other forum I've ever been a member of invariably deteriorates into, "You suck!" "You suck more!" matches. Even so, we're dealing with a wide range of cultures, language skills, intellects, and levels of maturity.
"Humans are a lot dumber and meaner than they think they are." - Kurt Vonnegut
Truer words were never spoken.
Cyndee, I am sorry that you felt that you were treated rudely. Maybe you are a sensitive person; I know that I am and there have been a couple of times when I was a bit wounded regarding a comment I made or whatever, but several previous posters have rightfully pointed out that people post here from all over the world, and the subtle shades of language can be elusive.
You are right to stick with Spanishdict! (That kind of has a nice ring to it, doesn't it? "Stick with Spanishdict!")
Anyway, as a friend of mine once said many years ago when I was having a sensitive moment, "Don't try to make sense out of other people's nonsense". I have found that approach helpful to let go of wounded feelings; maybe you will too!
And don't 4get the people maintaining the awesome site cannot monitor every line written. That's always the problem with chat rooms and forums like this. To me he most exciting read is always the big battle between 2 people on a thread. I love that. I agree that this site is far too valuable for any learner to leave over something like that !
