Why do you think husbands always disappoint their wives?
Why do you always think husbands always disappoint their wives? Do you believe in the institution of marriage? Everyone is getting divorced, so why not just have fun and date w/o the marriage certificate? I think I'm done with the Latinos. They don't want to work hard, or at all, and want us to do everything for them! Es la verdad!!!
Quote from RuthieB Everyone is getting divorced, so why not just have fun and date w/o the marriage certificate?
No, everyone is not getting divorced. I've been married 26 years, and it is "till death do us part."
And that's the reason you get married- you become committed family. You don't go out and swap mothers or father do you? You don't trade in your brother for a different one, do you? No you don't. You can't.... because your mom is your mom and always will be. If you have problems within that family, you work it out.
That is what a marriage is supposed to accomplish. And that is why couples stand before God and their friends and family, and make a solemn vow to live the rest of their lives together.
Now how are you going to split up when you've made a vow like that? But people do it all the time because they don't take their vow seriously. And that is wrong.
Husbands do disappoint their wives, and wives disappoint their husbands, just like sons and daughters and moms and dad and sisters and brothers and best friends all disappoint the ones they love. That's part of the human condition.
But that's where commitment and love hold things together long enough for forgiveness and reconciliation to occur.
I hope you will carefully consider that, and find someone that you can be family with. And make that commitment, say those vows and mean them. Then stick to it.
May God grant you the happiness in marriage that I have in mine.
Another comment from me on this topic. I believe that a "true" and "loving" relationship between a man and a woman is the biggest adventure life has to offer. I think only the words of poetry can get close to defining or explaining it - it is a magical mystery.
I've been married 11 years this November, and I have to say it is the best decision I ever made. I'm not saying my husband is perfect and sometimes irritates me. But he is basically a great person who I admire and love every day. We are all irritating - I know I am.
You said that you feel men do not work hard. I hear that complaint from other women a lot. I am convinced that "hard working" is rarely on people's wish list for a mate, but it needs to be! Having a family is a lot of work!
I'm sorry you have had some bad experiences, but that is not all there is! My husband works very hard - he does all the laundry, half the cooking, is an involved father, runs a home business and remodels the house, gardens and mows and chops wood and fixes the cars...etc! He is so invaluable to me.
Everyone is annoying sometimes. But if you are hard working and useful, you are easier to tolerate on your annoying days. I try to be as hardworking as my husband, but I can't!
There are also people who just could never would never cheat. I know because I am one of them, and so is my husband.
Now, I just need to learn how to say this all en español y entonces esto sería apropiado para este foro.
One reason marriages don't last long nowadays is that couples don't take the time to get to know each other before they get wed. In my youth you would "court" a girlfriend for years before you got married. During that time common interests came to the fore. You had plenty of time to see whether you got on together once that initial "sexual attraction" abated. Suffice it to say you got through a lot of courtships before you found the right person. This was preferable to todays pattern where couples go through a lot of marriages before they find the right person.
I love being married!
Of course, within a family there will always be some disappointment at sometime in their lives -- that's the nature of human beings.
On the other hand, marriage and companionship brings great joy.
You take the good with the bad.
Wrong. It is wives that disappoint their husbands. It is my wife that slept with my friend and killed my chances of ever trusting another woman. As for your comment about Latinos? They are the most caring, hard working people I have ever met, but you madam, are beneath their courtesies.
I have been married since the month after I turned 18. Thankfully, we have beat the statistics for teen marriages.
Anyone who relies on "feeling" in love 24 hours a day will run into disappointment at some point. Real love means you put the needs of the other person first and that usually requires some degree of sacrifice. I do believe in marriage and "happily ever after". It is real and romance can last a lifetime. But this can only be sustained with commitment, patience and a true desire to serve each other.
I was married for 13 years and 8 months (back in 2004) and the day I landed in Afghanistan my divorce was final. My (then) wife did not want to have to deal with the possibility I may die.
Who was the dissapointment there?
I came back from that war alive. She told me she had made a mistake. To late! I am a soldier. I am not going to go through that crap everythime I deploy.
I later met the wonderful woman I am married to now. Before we decided to commit to each other in a relationship I explained that I will deploy and if she can't handle it I would walk away. She decided to stick with me.
We were married 3 years later. On our first anniversary I was gone with the military getting ready to leave for Iraq. I have just had my second anniversary and I missed that one too by being deployed.
Through all this she has been very supportive and understanding. When I tell her how lucky I am se reminds me that she is the lucky one. After all, when I am home I do all the cooking, I do laundry, I clean the bathrooms....... Marriage is truely a blessing from God, but it has to be worked at by both.
I think there is some truth in the idea that a woman marries in the expectation that she can make " her man " into the ideal one she (thinks she) wants. But I don't think men always disappoint their wives.
Mi novia / amgia boliviana de algunos años, dice que ella quiere a su hijo a casarse con una mujer latina, pero su hija a casarse con un hombre europeo. Todavía estoy tratando de averiguar por qué. Alguien tiene alguna idea?
On a personal level I have been divorced twice - both of which I regret - but I don't know how I could have made things happen in a better way. I will try again if I get the chance. Life is much better when you can share it with someone special.
I think people disappoint themselves and blame it on someone else whether they are married or not.
I want to make a comment about men / husbands being unfaithful -
"It is not only men who do this."
Just ask the question - "Who are they being unfathful with?"
Life is much better when you can share it with someone special.
I think the whole thing boils down to this, Ian, congratulation on the sentence, so true
Jee, just try again, there must be someone for you out there.
Stereotypes should never be made. It's like saying all apples are red. When people think of apples, they think of the color red. But there are green apples out there, too. Not everyone is all like their own kind.
¿Por qué crees que creo que una cosa así?
I totally agree with the Darwinian theory and the logic behind marriages. However even if this is the scientic reason why humans invented marriage the element of love is required to hold on to to the marriage. However everyone is not gifted with luck to be in a marriage filled with love. Sometimes one of the partners may be working hard to hold a marriage and keep the family together but the other person is not realizing the effort. There could be a multitude of reasons why many marriages are happy or not happy. However the crux of the thing is any marriage needs a good deal of work and commitment from atleast one partner, if not both, to hold it together. Its not something that always happens naturally, because it involves 2 totally different people.