Why do you think husbands always disappoint their wives?

Question

Why do you always think husbands always disappoint their wives? Do you believe in the institution of marriage? Everyone is getting divorced, so why not just have fun and date w/o the marriage certificate? I think I'm done with the Latinos. They don't want to work hard, or at all, and want us to do everything for them! Es la verdad!!!

• Please change your category to "general discussions" this is not a vocabulary or grammar question. - LAtINaPunKRO Oct 17, 2009
• I did it for you :) - LAtINaPunKRO Oct 17, 2009

Answer 1

Stereotypes should never be made. It's like saying all apples are red. When people think of apples, they think of the color red. But there are green apples out there, too. Not everyone is all like their own kind.

Answer 2

Why do you always think husbands always disappoint their wives?

For the same reasons that wives always disappoint their husbands (although I would say "often" , rather than "always", in both cases). Somewhere around the 13th/14th century the idea of "romantic love" was invented (although it didn't become really widespread until Hollywood, Bollywood, etc. took up the cause).

In Darwininian terms, marriage is about "propagation of the species". In Judeo-Christian terms, "Be fruitful and multiply" (but, in either case, the message is "propagate those genes"). Successful propagation does not require that you like one another (much less love one another); only that you provide a stable economic/social unit that supports the survival of your offspring.

There is actually much to be said in favor of "arranged marriages" (which were common well into the 19th century {throughout Europe and America [and still are the norm in some places]) . The parents were knowledgeable about their children but not influenced by the "rampant hormonal impulses" of the latter.

• Note: The God of the Bible inspired Song of Solomon, quite the hot romantic love sonnet, in 953 BC. - Goyo Oct 18, 2009

Answer 3

There is actually much to be said in favor of "arranged marriages"

I agree - there is a lot. Freedom is hard choice. It's often about trial and error. With many errors. Yet for me that's what the miracle of life is about.

"Ship is safe at port. But it is not what the ships are built for."

• I like that last comment Behemoth - have a vote. - ian-hill Oct 19, 2009
• About "arranged marriages" - let the couple involved do the arranging. - ian-hill Oct 19, 2009

Answer 4

I totally agree with the Darwinian theory and the logic behind marriages. However even if this is the scientic reason why humans invented marriage the element of love is required to hold on to to the marriage. However everyone is not gifted with luck to be in a marriage filled with love. Sometimes one of the partners may be working hard to hold a marriage and keep the family together but the other person is not realizing the effort. There could be a multitude of reasons why many marriages are happy or not happy. However the crux of the thing is any marriage needs a good deal of work and commitment from atleast one partner, if not both, to hold it together. Its not something that always happens naturally, because it involves 2 totally different people.